When asked how does he” tell” the girl interested in him to get the message he’s not. Here’s his advice …
Well, I’m not only abrasive and cold to her. Flat out ignoring people won’t
tell the whole story. I encourage any healthy interaction, whereas there
can’t be much until she gets of over the crush. Teaching birds to fly
involves a carefully timed process of dropping and catching.”
basically…
1. be friendly, but hint to the effect of “back off”
2. if hints are not apparently heeded as desired, drop the bomb: lay down that the bottom line is “go away”
3. After step 2. takes effect… send reminder that bottom line is just a general rule. the policy which is being advised is not “go away, period.” rather, it is “treat me like a normal person”
If she’s too optimistic… i might have to call the cops or delete her from my IM list.