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Happy Birthday Elysia!

wow! you are two years old today on International Women's Day!

Pancake Day (Shrove Tuesday)

It's the third day for the Chinese New year celebrations this year, but it's also Shrove Tuesday. Thanks to Ian. we tried some pancake flipping! Enjoy our performance by clicking on the pictures ... you can vote who is the winner for our very own "Pancake Idol"! (which doesn't include the master who does a demo himself at the end)...

First Origami, Next ...?

Gareth appreciated my basic origami attempts :-) I was intrigued how he liked this simple art. Next ... one day it will be Asterix? :-) But that's another kind of art ... with it's unique humor and adventure.

There's a lot that happened today. But I'm exhausted after a long day today ... will try to get some sleep. At least, the "wonder" of this picture will help. Thanks Gareth.

Back to Routines

[Driving back Home Video]

One of the important routines after coming back is to be back on the busy streets of Kuala Lumpur. I'm still get stuck at the Kampung Pandan roundabout everytime I pick up Elysia from my mum's place. The construction for the new roads are still in progress after one year (phew!).

Slowly but surely, I'm settling back into the routines (and rituals) which have been part of me before I left. The question is how can I breath new meaning into them or even reshape them. Now that's another story in the making :-)

Big Bro & Little Sis Post-Taiping Prequel

[Big Bro & Little Sis Post-Taiping Prequel Video]

I can't help but post up videos of family and especially the kids. I'm already in a "missing them" mode. This one was recorded ...

"While we were waiting for Mummy May Chin getting some fruits at the R & R on the way back from Taiping. The Kids used their time wisely while waiting.

There's a nice "surprise" ending :-) "

Big Bro & Little Sis

[Big Bro & Little Sis video]

It's wonderful when both of them are not fighting, and having fun together. In this case, enjoying the video where I captured Elysia laughing for 46 seconds (the other person laughing in the background is from the video). There was some surprising reactions I got here :-) I will REALLY miss both of them for 28days soon. Of course, I will miss my wife May Chin too! *grin*

Talking with Elysia

[Talking with Elysia Video]

It's nice when we can manage to get Elysia to sleep (because she's one who wakes up easily and seems to be able to take "power naps" in amazingly short spans of time) Watching her earlier tonight and especially this older video reminded me how I also enjoying talking with her.

Going to School

[Going to School Video]

It's harder these days to be away from home. Watching some of these older videos (last year to be precise) brings back some fun memories. This one reminds me of Gareth's initiation to "school" when he was still three years old. He already had the idea of "no school". :-)

Laughing out Loud ... and Long

[Laughing Video]

Gareth and Elysia always makes coming home a joy! In this case it made our whole journey to the clinic in the car lots of fun too. Originally, I wanted to put this post first. But then, I was upset by reading something I felt was "unedifying". Now, before I sleep I thought I should end with what was a "Hi" for me rather than a "Low" :-)

Gareth's 1st Video

[Gareth's 1st Video]

It's so wonderful to share in Holly & Ryan Sharps joy at the arrival of their new born. Indeed the little ones looks change very fast in the early days. This month has so far been a month of celebration as far as birthdays is concerned :-) I'm sure Ryan & Holly will be taking videos of Paxton as he grows up. Above was my first attempt for Gareth.

Overwhelmed by Joy

[Overwhelmed by Joy (Video)]

It's been a wonderful week for Gareth .. the build up began when we was packing the small presents to give away to his kindergarten mates on Friday. I noticed how he was "overwhelmed" when all his school mates sang the birthday song. Gareth is a tender boy ...

Then on Saturday night, we went out for dinner at Nando's Chicken - which was a simple affair .. but the climax was this morning ... The "Thomas the Train" Cake by Amazing Aunty Adeline was really awesome (She's been such a gift to our community - more than just her wonderful cakes of course!). It was great since both of our birthdays fell on sunday this year .. so it's been a double blessing for the Kit family.

Growing up to be 4 years is a big step for a little boy. It's a pity that his Grandma and Grandpa Long aren't around because they are in UK for a visit. And I know Gareth misses Grandpa Long a lot (May Chin's Dad). I remember having very memorable birthday celebrations as a child. That was one gift I received from my parents ... it's one gift we want to share with our kids. I'm overwhelmed by this joy too ... the joy of sharing in Gareth's joy ...

Happy Birthday ... Gareth!

Happy Birthday Gareth ... you are REALLY four years old today!! Isn't it great to have so many little parties to celebrate your birthday ... one at school, one on Saturday night and then another one on Sunday?

Papa loves you ...

Elysia ... Wow!

Elysia ... Wow!

Elysia is a lot of fun ... especially as her vocab expands and her song repertoire increases :-)

I'm going to be 4 Years Old!

Gareth Kit's 2nd Video

We've spend quite a lot of time together the last two days (good naps too!). Nowadays it's harder to be away from family for ministry assignments or even conferences. I know he really missed me last week when I was at the YLG 06. I felt it when he ran to hug me once I stepped into our apartment. He wanted to come home with me after lunch at my Mom's place. I couldn't say no - so both of us said "bye!" to Elysia (as Mom takes care of her).

This Sunday October 8th he will turn 4 years old! He's growing very fast :-) I love this 2nd video I recorded of Gareth - it's when he was going to turn two and just learned how to say "No more!"

Kit Family Latest

It's great to come home tonight after the worship gathering practice and Gareth ran out to give me a hug and then Elysia following him. Nice to see May Chin reading to the kids to bed while I was cheekily trying to make Elysia laugh. Gareth was busy listening to the story. I love "responsiveness" like this. So often we adults are tempted to lose such simple warmth. I thought I put up our latest family photo taken last saturday during the BBQ at the church compound.

Canon A70 Returns

It's great to have our first Digital Camera back (we do forsee another one in the future but not near future *grin*). It's great of Canon Malaysia to repair it for free ... they have been very good in keeping my confidence in their service and even winning extra points!

It was nice to feel the camera in my hand and the freedom to capture moments once again.

A funny moment was when Gareth and I was looking at some "changgih" ("awesome") hi fi display and then some one asked me where I need help, I said we're just looking and then i have some one put his arm on my shoulder ... and then to my suprised is the latest wed couple from our church - Paul and Joanne ("Mrs. Ong!"). We had a lot of laughter over that. It was funny to be teased bby some one else rather than being the one playing tricks on others. good medicine for tonight.

A Close LRT Call for the Kit Boys

I was surprised to read and told this morning about : Computer glitch affects LRT service

"Hundreds of commuters were stranded when the Putra LRT stopped due to a computer glitch along the Kelana Jaya line.

At least four trains came to a halt between stations when the system broke down at 6.16pm yesterday.

The most affected stations were between KL Sentral and Ampang Park, and it took more than an hour to evacuate passengers. Trains at other stations were able to proceed to their destinations as soon as the system resumed at about 7.15pm. "

I think Gareth and I arrived at KLCC station perhaps around 6pm or slightly later. ... so we missed the whole episode. Yesterday, we decided to take the train to meet with May Chin to take my mom out for dinner. In fact, Gareth had a great trip, we had a great conversation with a lady in the train on the moving vehicles and getting into the tunnel. It was a very pleasant journey. At least for us. But sadly for the rest who got stranded later ... it's one day after work you want to forget.

How does one process an episode like this? What is one's response?

Lord, I don't know "why" we missed this incident. But, we are thankful we're ok. And we pray for those who were trapped in the trains and disturbed by the whole incident - your peace and protection will be over them. Lord, you know I'm not into explanations or triumphalism. But, I do ask for care and deligence for those who are reparing the damage and maintaining the LRT on a day to day basis. That's all I can say for now ...Amen.

Gong Gong & Poh Poh

God has been very gracious, I thought before the day ends today. I'd express my gratefulness to God and May Chin's parents who've been a wonderful support to us all these years. They are wonderful Grandparents to Gareth (especially since he spends the day with them while we work) and also Elysia (and cousin Darlene who is also in this picture).

We had some fun with them during the classic World cup match between Argentina and Germany at their home because they have cable TV. At the end the kids slept with Grandma, while May Chin and I munched our chips, drank our lemonade beer with May Chin's dad as he complained sometimes why the players were passing the ball backwards. :-)

1st Term Remarks

"Gareth is progressing well. He is very confident in class. He expresses himself well in English. Participates in all the class activities. Recognizes numbers 1 to 5, letters a to l. Enjoys matching, sorting and jig-saw puzzles. Likes to look at the books." ~ From Gareth's Nursery Teacher

Papa is proud of you .. :-)

Happy Mother's Day!

I'm very thankful for May Chin and I know the kids are too!

The Easter Kemunting Holiday 3.1

Our mornings at Cameron were always beautiful ... outside before the hills and greenary and on the breakfast table.

Getting on this vehicle was special

They really upgraded the facilities for the Boh Tea Plantation ...

Of course, nothing compares to the greenary.

The Easter Kemunting Holiday 2.6.

wow quite a few delayed posts here .. anyway, I think recalling the recent Cameron Highland trip is good pre-breakfast for today.

one thing for sure, Gareth had a great time at the playground where we stayed at the Lutheran Mission Bungalow. It was a big BIG tall TALL slide!

Dinner always starts with tasty chicken soup at the mission bungalow. Yummy! The Deserts at the end are .... I'm speechless.

The slow fading into the evening was soothing after ice cream and strawberrys!

We tried to start a "fire" for an evening conversations with the few guests who stayed at the Bungalow. One thing I learnt .. a little petrol is very dangerous! And it's not that easy ... at the end, because the wood wasn't dry enough .. we just had wine and random conversations :-)

Happy Birthday May Chin!

Labour Day is always special because - this is when May Chin's mom (who's birthday is also today!) went into labour ...

Happy Birthday my dear May Chin ... May your life be ever so sweet :-)

The Easter Kemunting Holiday 2.5

I'm always fascinated by the "wonder" shown in a child ... and Gareth helps me a lot whenever I tempted to lose this "wonder". Our trip was full of surprises, one of them was meeting up with the Wong family who happened to be in Cameron for a holiday too! Then we also bumped into our German friends in Jalan Kemunting too!

Left on my own I probably would have cuddled in a bed and slept or found a quiet corner to sleep. But when we go as a family ... bringing our kids to the Butterfly farm and appreciating these flowers like these makes us take note of things we'd likely miss if we were left to our own devices!

it's nice to still manage a family photo ... :-)

The Easter Kemunting Holiday 2.4

we were so excited on day two Monday and went to Boh Tea Plantation near Habu. Little did we know like pastors they take their sabbath on Monday :-)

But that didn't dampen our spirit, we got more educated that's all .. i.e. don't go to tea plantations in Cameron highlands on monday! I tried to make Elysia lighten up with our national flower ...

Another lesson, the next time .. stop read the sign properly and then decide whether to drive ALL the way up or not. A little pause makes a BIG difference. However, a follow up lesson is needed. After as a fool you still drove up, make the best of it and laugh all the way down. And learn ... internalize .. do whatever in order not to repeat the mistake ... share with others. Look closely: CLOSED ON MONDAY!

Later we checked out our upcoming August 31 - September 2 church retreat venue. Don't judge a camp venue by it's sign board, we're looking for vintage classic looks anyway. :-)

Nice chalets, walls that's got "feel" (and history), upgrades inside too - see the little girl crawling on the bed! This is authentic stuff .. minus the "flamboyance" of modern day hotels. There's lots of history and heritage here... lots of church camps. Some of us came here as kids and teenagers! There are stories to tell.

the tables at the canteen brings me sweet memories ... it's also equipped with a cool vintage pulpit ... it's going to be wonderful!!! :-) I can already imagine. check out that ping pong table!

Mrs. Leong (who's helping to manage this place) tender lovingly offers these gifts of beauty ... for the surroundings. I'll end this post by reminding myself... the country I call home and the beauty God's creative work is expressed here. Before we did anything (usually we make a mess of it), God's natural artistry as seen through the flowers especially has gone before us. We need to follow his lead ...

The Easter Kemunting Holiday 2.3

These would be some of my favorite artsy photos on the second day first morning.

there's always something special about the sunrise.

my "Joshua flower" and "Joshua Tree" :-)

The sunrise and sunflowers are a perfect match.

from a different point of view

The Easter Kemunting Holiday 2.2

We had the same breakfast everyday ... cornflakes, milk, juice, bacon & eggs, toast, jam and coffee .. and they were all good.

It's been quite a while since we have had breakfast together as a family. Nowadays, May Chin and Elysia will be off early to my mum's place. Gareth then would wake up to have his cereal and I my coffee. So, these times were precious. As usual I land up finishing off what the others "left behind".

By the way, as far as these pictures are concerned we are still in "day 2"! As you can see I am savoring the moments. :-)

The Easter Kamunting Holiday 2.1

My first two morning photos. I miss the cool early morning and the beautiful sunrise. The freshness, the morning dew, the sunflowers, the smell of morning grass ... ahhh. These pictures are my way of savouring the moment in my imagination. What an awesoem God given gift to humans. :-)

I love this swing where the family can sit and enjoy the sunrise. it's been a while since could sit with my kids and have a good swing. With that kind of whether cuddling Elysia took on new meaning. She's always "cool" and "calm" no matter what (apart from times when she's irritated.

Cute to see Gareth adjusting his pants while coming down the stairs. One thing for sure this is all a fresh experience for Elysia.

I love this scene where Gareth walks with May Chin along the road for the cars to come in and out. The leisurely pace of the mornings is something I REALLY miss right now. Every morning was a breath of fresh new life. I'll keep that in my imagination this Easter season.

The Easter Kamunting Holiday 1.2

Our destination was the Lutheran Mission Bungalow, Jalan Kamunting (now I've leaked out why it's called the Easter Kamunting Holiday). We've tried booking it before but failed everytime. After there's a change of management this year, we're happy to finally get a room.

The food that welcomed us the first evening ... was totally designed for someone like me. Western food - with a cool evening. Mummy May Chin was excited as you can see! The kids were ready ... and I finished off whatever the other family members couldn't finish!

The food was great .. the environment just what we needed. The service was simple and nice. We were surprised to meet someone though :-) what a small world.

We checked into room no. 2. The kids were fascinated by the bed lights. Glad to have had some to help me read before I slept. I didn't manage to read as much as I wanted as it turned out more time were trying to get our "younglings" to sleep!!!!

The Easter Kamunting Holiday 1.1

My longest distance so far lately has been to down south Seremban, Port Dickson or Malacca. I've always liked the scenic drive up north towards Ipoh and this round Cameron Highlands. We chose to use the new highway which was 40km more but a smoother drive. It rained heavily when we left Kuala Lumpur. But we had clear skies as we approache the foothill of Cameron Highlands.

We made one pit stop at the Tapah R & R ... I bought some chips to energize me for the long drive (it did!) Gareth was sleeping most of the journey. When he got up he had lots to say about the hills and the mountains he saw. Elysia is seen here having fun with her hat! Mummy May Chin looks happy ... this has been a long awaited family trip. We missed th last post Christmas holiday because the kids and later May Chin fell sick. We're grateful this Easter holiday materialized ... more on why "Kamunting" tomorrow.

Easter Season Family Photo

Finally I could upload the latest family photo we took at Cameron Highlands. The rest will be either one of us missing because we're holding the camera. :-)

Feast for our Bodies

We're back from Cameron Highlands. I'm deeply grateful to God we as a family could start our Easter Season with a much needed time away from the busy hurried stuffy draining enviroment of Kuala Lumpur (and all that's connected not just with the city physically but also metaphorically). We definately had a good feast for our bodies up there in the highlands :-) That's why the following paragraph caught my attention this morning. Our bodies (and all that can be connected to it metaphorically *smile*) are not something we try to escape from but is God's creation which he redeems and resurrects!

"This is a feast for our bodies, these marvellous shapely organisms that we have lived with for years, and are as central to us as our minds or memories. We shape our bodies, especially our faces, as the years pass. As the proverb has it, the face we have at forty is the face that we deserve. But we feel the body’s frailty in every scratch and hiccup, in every backache and sleepless night.

The apostles and the holy women did not see a ghost of Jesus. They saw him in the flesh, but in different flesh, as the oak tree is different from the acorn from which it grew. We touch on the mystery of a body, not just Jesus’ body but our own, which will express us at our best, will not blunt our spirit with weariness and rebellion, but express it with ease and joy. This is a mystery beyond our imagination, but it is the centre of our faith. As we grow older, nothing in our faith makes more sense than the Passion and Resurrection, the certainty that our body, like Jesus’, must suffer and die, and the certainty that we, in our bodies, have a life beyond death."~ Sacred Space

Little Kit Interlude

Baby Kye Xin (Elysia) ... you bring so much joy to papa. Everytime you get excited when papa and mummy comes to fetch you from Grandma Kit's place, you welcome us with a cheeky (and very happy) smile.

Big Bro Gareth ... Papa loves it when we talk about everything from trains to tadpoles, why this and why that, going to school and going for "gaigai" (going out) -- and swimming is our favorite right?

I thank God for his gifts of joy and wonder through these two young "kits". They have indeed been special highlights during this Lenten Season (in fact since the day they were conceived!) All praise to the Creator!

Favorite Ball

How young does a child decide what is their favorite toy? or favorite color? My Mom thinks Elysia has a favorite green/white ball :-) She's growing fast and bring us lots of joy these days! Now She's one year plus!

Happy Birthday Elysia!

Papa and Mummy loves you dearly Ah-Girl, and Big Koko Gareth too :-) And especially God-Father-Son-Spirit the one who is love and has first loved you!

Elysia's Baptism!

"People brought babies to Jesus, hoping he might touch them. When the disciples saw it, they shooed them off. Jesus called them back. "Let these children alone. Don't get between them and me. These children are the kingdom's pride and joy. Mark this: Unless you accept God's kingdom in the simplicity of a child, you'll never get in." ~ Luke 18:15-17 (The Message)

Yesterday February 19 Sunday was Elysia's baptism (interesting to note from the ELCA lectionary on February 18, we commorate Martin Luther, renewer of the church, 1546) ... it was nice to have our new Bishop Philip Lok come and conduct the baptism (thanks to my friend Scot for the beautiful pictures!). He spoke from the OT passage for the day Isaiah 43:18-25,
"Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.

See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert
and streams in the wasteland. ..."

May Chin and I & Gareth are delighted that Elysia has two wonderful Godparents one who has been May Chin's friend since primary school days Wai Mun (we've also been together during our student fellowship days so that's a long time) and another one Chin Hor who became a Christian and got baptised in BLC a number of years back. I just noticed last night ... that both their surnames are "Wong" :-)

For me (who was baptised as an infant and made my return to the faith as a teenager, May Chin was baptised when she was a teenager), I'm amazed by God's grace upon my life these years and am assured that He truly holds Elysia in His hands and will continue to do so. I know Christians have been "divided" in their understanding of "infant baptism" and the biblical, historical, and theological discussion can be complicated and there's a place for each person and church to work through these matters. For me, the baptism of Elysia is not only a powerful picture of God's choosing of her, and including her into his presence & purposes, it's also receiving her into the community of faith past, present and future and commissioning us as a family and church to nurture our children to walk with us in/with Christ starting now ... As parents and a pastor, I find these words from the last century an important challenge (of course, the language is less inclusive - I'll read the "he" with a "she" in mind as well *smile*).

"What is the true idea of Christian education?-I answer in the following proposition, which it will be the aim of my argument to establish, viz: That the child is to grow up a Christian, and never know himself as being otherwise. In other words, the aim, effort, and expectation should be, not, as is commonly assumed, that the child is to grow up in sin, to be converted after he comes to a mature age; but that he is to open on the world as one that is spiritually renewed, not remembering the time when he went through a technical experience, but seeming rather to have loved what is good from his earliest years. " ~ Horace Bushnell, Christian Nurture, 1876

A New Chapter ...

Happy New Year ... another new chapter ... more sober ... more peaceful ... less hype ... some quietness ... more depth ... steadier pace ... wiser? ... chastised ... discerning ... suprised ... persevere ... space ... reality ... eyes open ... hearts softer ... minds sharper ... body need work ... respect ... lots of blanks to fill ... listening ... reading ... contemplating ... unending ... unfinished ... human ... humor ... patience ... grace ... letting go ... not giving up ... discipline ... need to eat now. :-) Bumpy start but start nonetheless ..

Christmas Snapshots @ Home (again) 12/25

I was pretty happy we could gather all the members of the Kit Family for a Christmas dinner at our place. It's always hard to get my Dad and my brother due to their unique professions and working schedules.

May Chin cooked up quite a bit of stuff ... The Peking Duck which was ordered from one of the hotels was a special "mouthwatering", "oily" and "lovely" addition! Awesome duck I must say.

It's always great to see our kids interact with their grandparents. And since they seldom see my Dad, it's good to see Elysia and him having a good time. John my brother almost couldn't make it because he had a "show" to do .. but he managed to sqeeze the evening for us (even though he was extremey tired). he also stuffed himself with Peking Duck and more!

Well, after a good meal and time together what else can you do but ... sleep! Dad who's an "old timer" art director and my brother John who's a professional clown, street magician, and whatever that's part of this entertainment industry .. have one thing in common. They can sleep anywhere when they are exhausted!

Christmas Snapshots @ Home 12/24

We had a most quiet Christmas eve this year on Saturday ... We had a simple dinner and stayed at home while it was raining and later drizzling that evening.

The kids were "allowed" to start opening up some presents. Gareth was more excited than the observant Elysia at this stage.

The whole process of opening Christmas gifts is quite fascinating .. the tearing, the unpacking, the wonder, the joy ... etc. "Oohs and Aahs .."

Elysia was intrigued by one of her presents ... a plastic hammer! Gareth demonstrated how to use it!

Adoramus Te

Merry Christmas to all who frequent my scibbling space here in cyberspace (this includes new visitors too!).

Come let us adore HIM together!

From Gareth (3years plus), May Chin (age secret!), Elysia (9months plus), Sivin (into my 33th year!)

Little Drummer Boy

These photos were taken more than one year ago November 4, 2004. Wow! I remember being amazed that Gareth held "matchstick" position for the drum sticks so well and he has good posture even though he can't reach the pedals ... It's such a delight to look at these pictures and recall the joy hanging out in church during the music rehearsal ... that time May Chin (who was pregnant with Elysia) still could serve as a keyboardist - now it's harder because her hands are full!! That's ok we're in a different phase - and her service has transformed more towards the home and family ... (while amazingly juggling work)

"Liang Sook"

John Kit - or Uncle Hsiao Liang (my younger brother - younger than me 9 years!) or "Liang Sook" (in Cantonese) is REALLY Elysia's favorite uncle. They've been spending a lot of time together and I can see she enjoys him - for who he is and of course he's got lots of tricks under his sleeve .. he's a professional "magician"!

Good to be back ...

when I came home yesterday, Gareth gave me some warm hugs and a great welcome home. I knew he missed me. I called him everyday when I was at the days 5 nights camp. Interesting to follow the leap in his vocabulary through the mobile phone! :-)

Blessing Not Burden

So often it's tempting to see our children as a burden to our personal self-fulfilment. But these two have been such a blessing!

The Kit Girls!

I think this is a pretty good picture of my wife and daughter ... May Chin & Elysia!

Both are intelligent ...

both are quick to act (mummy especially when it comes to what she thinks needs to be done, for ah-girl .. well you better be quick to act once she's swallowed her food!)

Both have a great smile and captivating eyes ... check out those lips! :-)

Both require significant attention :-)

Both bring new meaning and lessons into my life ...

Both wake me up when I'm sleeping ... :-P

Both are loved and are loving ...

and I'm thankful to God for allowing me to see life more as a "gift" rathan than seeing life as an "achievement" . Their presence in my life brings things in focus!

Prost! Cheers .. Yam Sing to the Kit girls!

Ah-Girl & I

Chin Hor had some really nice things to say here in adoration that warmed my heart ... and some great pictures too.

I've been enjoying her excitement when it comes to eating porridge lately ... she growls for each spoon :-)

Moving ... (delayed post)

This was supposed to be posted on the day we moved from our place in Petaling Jaya to our new place in K.L. which was the 29 September 2005. I'm still hoping to get our phone line fixed ASAP for blogging at home.

"Moving" is such a hassle and discovery. It's hard because of all the packing, the moving and also the unpacking. It's a discovery in a sense that we're often surprised with how much we've accumulated through the years. Especially dust and dirt as well as papers, items etc.

One the key decisions is what to throw and what to keep. What we could leave behind and what to take with us ... and being nice tenants we tried to leave the house pretty clean for furture usage by the headquarters (which at this time the house will be used as a guest house)

We are very fortunate to have some "movers" to help us. I recall the last time we moved it was just us and a couple of church members. This time, there were more "stronger" people .. and we packed the stuff well in advance so it was easier in my view.

it's a lot of stuff ... even after leaving some behind and throwing some away. I felt deciding on what are the "precious" non-negotiable items like May Chin's piano .. brought together with the items memories and stories.

Of course, the bookshelfs and books for me came along ... I was quite intrigued by how much we could sqeeze in the lorry ... of course we made at least 2 trips full load.

and now we're still unpacking ... which is very much part of moving as well ... the settling down and rearranging stuff for our new home is quite an art. A week ago I thought I had some profound analogical thoughts from my experience of moving to "moving on in life". I guess it's nothing that profound.

We just need to leave some stuff behind, figure out what to even throw away. Decide what to bring with us. Gear up for a "move" or a number of "moves" (usually to and fro a few rounds). Unload and begin to unpack ... get new stuff, adjust, rearrange, ... I think all this applies to "moves" in thinking, working through "feelings", our spiritual walk, ministry transitions, etc. something like that :-)

I am Three!

It's been a pretty good 3 years thus far, and I've been enjoying fatherhood and I think Gareth has been enjoying boyhood too! It was funny when he said "I'm a man!" ... We celebrated a mini-party on October the 8th on Saturday (the day he was born!) with some from our LiFE Group and yesterday with family and close friends (for a special follow up party!). So, as I promised earlier ... especially after the break in ... good news is rolling in. What;s more important is we want to focus on the "Gospel" working in our lives!

A pretty good view ...

ok finally I can have a more "leisurely" blog entry ... after quite an eventful 2 weeks since my birthday :-)

Here are two pictures evening and morning outside our new home (i.e. apartment). It's been a good change thus far and has served as a "sanctuary" for us. I had a pretty good "swim" last week. So far, the sleep has been good (even though Elysia had a "learning curve" as far as her patterns are concerned.) I'm looking forward for some times of solitude (which was harder in my previous home). Gareth has been having loads of fun running around and thoroughly like his new room (though he crawls back into our bed every night - that's his learning curve.) As for my wife May Chin ...She's happy ... and that's good. In fact, it's been more than a pretty good view so far. And we're thankful.

Packing

Packing and unpacking this will occupy our minds for a while ...

Moving is always a hassle and gives us substantial headaches... but it has been very much part of my own life especially for my childhood - Malaysia --> Forlong - UK --> London - Brighton - Leicester - Malaysia --> Taman Forlong - UK--> Leicester - Malaysia --> Taman Forlong (P.Ramlee) - Kampung Pasir - Taman Maluri - Shah Alam - Ampang - Wangsa Maju - PJ --> ? :-)

Gareth wasn't born yet when we moved here this home in PJ 5 years ago ... He's going to be Three in October. I recall my first "move" was slightly after three on a plane to the UK to reunite with my Dad. Life has never been the same or "still" ever since.

New memory lanes in the making!

Elysia responds quickly to her Dad's voice. I noticed she responds even faster to her mum's smell. she's been growing exponentially when it comes to her interaction with us lately ... she's experimentating with a variety of expressions - e.g. bright oh-you-are-here look, frustrated-pick-me-up yell (or yells), I'm-REALLY-having-fun giggles, tata-ta conversations, etc.

packing our stuff this last week has made me more aware of the immediate moments right before my eyes.

Sports Day 2005

Here's a quick glimpse of an eventful sports day for Gareth (and the rest of the Kit Family) on September 10, Saturday morning 2005 ...

The morning started with some excitement .. and anticipation :-) especially for our family! Gareth got his name tag and he's part of the orange team.

Gareth's number 1 fan apart from the parents of course is Baby Elysia!

Wow! I was impressed when Gareth carrying his flag (with some help from the teacher) joined the march.

I was even more suprised and delighted when May Chin and I saw him do a choreographed exercise with music.

The MC for the day commented that Gareth is carrying a heavy load of favorite toys!

Run Gareth Run!

Dash Gareth Dash!

now relax a bit-lah!

Mummy May Chin had to run too!

Papa Sivin had to blow up a balloon ... wow!

even Granpa Long (May Chin's dad) showed his stuff!

and of course, the prize giving ceremony was chaotically great!

checking out the prize with mummy is fun!

our number 1 fan Baby Elysia cheers for everyone! Everybody's a winner!

The Kits Near the Lake

This is a "nice one" (in May Chin's words) after the wedding of Kevin and Olivia (that's why we are all dressed up even with my robes and latin american multi-colour stole! *grin*)... It's pretty rare for us to get a "full" family photo nowadays ... so this latest one is precious. We got some nice background too.

Evening Fun!

This week has been quite a roller coaster week for me (thus the Latin prayers and sporadic blogging).. and it's still not over yet (when is it ever? *grin*). But in the midst of all this or I think before the "ride" started we captured a fun evening together as a family. There you see Gareth experimenting with physics, movement, momentum, etc (ok! he was just having fun!) and May Chin reading to Elysia while she enjoys flipping the little book. :-)

One of my recent joys is when I go and pick Elysia up from my Mom's place and the excitement she shows when I call her name. The legs would start kicking (as if she's ready to go!) and then a little giggle of happiness. And when I look at her even during the waits at the traffici light ... she gives me this - "You look funny papa!"- look!

One of the fun conversations we had in the car on the way to Gareth's Granpa's place this week was about the use of "much" and "more". We'll talk about "many trees", "many cars", "so much water", or "so much smoke" (during the haze!), etc. And then you could just see his excitement when he talks about how Grandpa caught a "big fat rat" in a cage! Ah .. the world is fascinating through the eyes of a child. Perhaps we are too busy looking at something else :-P

Both May Chin and I are growing as well ... some one told me how they enjoyed the family pictures and I do too! And yet reality is that there's so much "hard work" involved in nurturing a family, a marriage, and children ... as I'm thinking about the words of Jesus for a couple to be married later in the afternoon ... "Love one another as I have loved you." I recognize that Jesus has promised to "love" us first and that results in empowering us (especially when we are weak) to "love" those before us and around us .. starting at home. so, to me it's more than just following the "example" of Jesus (which is awesome!), it's also how the living Christ "empowers" us here and now through these words and through the life-giving Spirit.

Back to Normal?

In a way, Gareth is back to "more than normal". We had a good time visiting the doctor this afternoon (even though it was still a long wait). What's important is Gareth's condition has improved and is improving ... we're so thankful for that. The Doctor says that perhaps after one month he might even be off the medication for asthma. "No junk food!" The doctor reminded me :-) (I think he meant it for my son!)

Gareth has suddenly matured the past 2 weeks. His vocab has increased more exponentially these days. It was great to explore speaking mandarin with him while on my way to my mum's place to fetch Elysia. He managed, "Wo De Min Zhi Jiao ...." (My name is ...) "Guo Kai Le" (Kit Kye Ler - his Chinese name!) and then see him interact with my mum with an English and Mandarin mix was very amusing. He ate a lot too ... must be mum's cooking and his appetite has improved. I even had to surrender a portion of my rice to him!

Elysia's punk hair-style took a break on Sunday (I think it was because she wore a hat on Saturday. It's coming back today anyway!). And she's been doing so much better too today. I didn't hear her cough as she was having a tough time the last week (and so did both of us with two kids fallen ill). Good to see her smile again and full of energy. I remember one of the days where she was just in a foul mood. Then again wouldn't we if we were sick huh?

She's also been grabbing stuff, trying to roll over, attempted "swimming" positions on the bed (at least that's how Gareth describes it, "Ah-girl swimming!" he would say.) We always had good times in the car when I'm fetching her home. She's also been bringing loads of joy to my mum and when I see her trying "connect" with her brother like grabbing him or just looking at him, it's just what can I say? so good! According to mum, Elysia love sit when people talk to her and "complains" when we leave her alone. hmm..

In some ways, we're back to a normal ... and yet it's more than normal when there's these growth spurts here and there. Interestingly, both the kids have been inspirational to some "philosophical & theological investigations" of a guest to our home too and that sparked off some fascinating conversations. I never forget my mentor Robert Brow telling me how much nurturing kids will teach me about God. He's wisdom is so spot on!

Monday Night, Family Time

Well that's the ideal and some times it doesn't work ... but most of the time we manage :-) Very often Sunday nights is family time too ... God is gracious.

I'm looking forward for tonight ... I'm really excited for Gareth and May Chin ... because tonight will be a "common" experience for three of us first, and then later when we pick up Elysia ... more on this later :-)

Awake & Asleep

These pictures were taken last Friday ... one is when Elysia is wide awake ready for her next jab (I mean injection!), the other one is when she arrived to Genting and enjoying the cool weather and sleeping away.

It's been pretty hot the last few weeks. So, going up to Genting Highlands last weekend was fabulous ... now that we've returned back to home ... I'm glad that hasn't been too hot these few days.

Anyway ... this is a slightly random post just before I go nto sleep mode and hopefully will be wide awake for a full days worth of work :-)

My First Sand Castle!

I think before I land up doing some "random links" & "random thoughts" posts or more "serious" stuff :-). I'll stick with some of the special moments we had during the recent holiday at Tioman Island. I'm doing this consciously because for me life has grown to be more "integrated" these days - i.e. truth is "embodied" in the ordinary stuff everyday as well as special moments - which is often during times like this at a beautiful beach. It's more of "there's a time for everything" kind of approach ...

Anyway, this is not the first time Gareth has been on a beach ... the last time I think it was Port Dickson where he wasn't too comfortable with sand. But this time, it's different. he discovers the "joy" of building sand castles - of course, as a beginner he fumbled getting the sand into the cup, but with some encouragement from Auntie May Lin (May Chin's eldest sister) he managed.

It's just so "cool" to see him enjoying his "construction"-"building" project ... with his own "design" with occassional "renovations" (i.e. squash one part, refill cup, and rebuild another ...) This whole activity with a beautiful sun setting - and cousin Daniel as company made the whole activity extra special ... playing alone is fun ... but playing with someone is even better ... playing with someone with a beautiful sunset is fantastic ... all this captured in some way on camera by papa (me!) is so rewarding!

My First Plane Ride!

We prepared Gareth the night before the trip - we told him he'll be going on a plane and he was excited the moment he opened his eyes that eventful Monday morning!

When I saw his joy the moment he saw the helicopters and planes, I couldn't help but share in his happy "discovery" (especially since for quite a number of mornings helicopters flew over our house!) And when our "big plane" arrived ... he was READY ...

"Zip .. Click!" ...we got buckled in our respective seats - Gareth had his own seat, wow! This definately was a special moment and as we were lifting off ... there was no fear ... only confidence and faith that we're flying into the sky towards our destination. Gareth couldn't stop talking about it before he settled down for a moment of "contemplation".

Gareth's joy and happiness was simply contagious ... the whole "discovery" experience swept me along and I became a child again. Elysia didn't get her own seat but May Chin and her shared this beautiful moment together with the boys (Gareth & me!). So often, in our routines we've lost the sensitivity towards wonder, adventure, exploration and simply getting excited about "stuff" right before our eyes. This "First plane ride" with Gareth was good for my soul! It started off the holiday with freshness ...

Thank God for Sunsets and ...

some "perceptive" readers of this blog might have wondered - why I haven't posted anything the last few days. It's out of the ordinary ... right?

Well, our family were enjoying sunsets like this one at Tioman Island for 3 evenings. It was good to get away from the busy routine that we're usually in. And since May Chin's sister, brother in law and children came all the way from England to visit ... I'm glad we could take the chance and have a group holiday together with May Chin's parents, another sister with her husband and daughter.

We came home yesterday ... when I was at the worship rehearsal during the time of prayer, I immediate response to the question, "What do you want to thank God for?" was ... Thank God for sunsets ... and people to share them with!

And that's just an opener ... there's also many little details that fills me with joy and gratitude.

Happy Family ...

Perhaps it would have been better if we just had an evening to ourselves huh? Well ... we decided to celebrate our anniversary with the kids. With one girl and one boy ... when the two Chinese characters come together it becomes a new word - it becomes "Good". And tonight we really had a "good time" - "good food" - "good fun"

May Chin as always is the AMAZING wife and SUPER MOM! Elysia just woke up here and sparkling with curiosity.

Gareth and I are showing off our teeth with gladness ... apart from "growing conversations" we're getting into these days with a few songs thrown in ... We laugh a lot together.

The last five years indeed has been full of various flavours! Our personalities too are very different even though we find ourselves growing (hopefully) more mature in some way :-)

For some fun ... who do you think is more of the "Chilli Sauce" and who is more "Tomato Ketchup"? I mean ... for May Chin and me ...

A Pretty Good Morning

This morning was one of the best mornings so far. The weather was good. Gareth had a good breakfast. We talked. Going to "school" wasn't a fuss. He even tried putting on his own shoes - and had some fun time saying "hi" to the puppy next door. He really loves it when he sees the puppy playing with its mummy. Then when I ask is he READY to go .. off he runs to the car and crawls into the front seat. I was extremely happy when I left him at "school" he didn't cry but just waived and said, "Bye, papa!" Now that's enough to brighten up my day. And of course, made me want to pick him up later (so I called to tell Grandpa - "I'll do it".

When I arrived, Gareth was just finishing a couple of books ... he's always been comfortable with books and enjoys them - like me :-) And I was quite "proud" of him because he didn't just want to rush home but took the books and kept them nicely at the relevant shelf - this is more like his mom. After sorting out his own bag, happily we walk to the car together and head to his Grandpa's house.

This was a pretty good morning ... that I treasure. A gift of grace indeed.

Elysia & Grandma Kit

When I came back from Cameron on Wednesday, Elysia was at home to welcome me :-) Well, my mom too ... May Chin has gone back to "normal" work schedules. There's still a lot of adjustments for all of us ... one step at a time.

Happy Birthday, Luv!

Many moons ago ... May Chin's Mom (who also has the same birth date!) went into labor on Labor Day and pop came this amazing woman ... who's now my amazing wife and wonderful mother of Gareth and Elysia. She's a great friend to many in her own quiet way ... she's a good employee at work and a consistent faithful follower of Christ!

Happy Birthday, luv (Thanks to the "No name yet" LiFe Group for a simple pre-celebration yesterday(Gareth loves birthday celebrations as you can see)! I think she ages better than me ... it must be the diet! :-)

Hi! Sally ... Elysia's new friend

It's rare for Mama May Chin to come out with something creative like this naming ... this little pink bear - Sally! It's a cute gift given by our German friends and suits Elysia just nice.

Elysia has been growing healthy and fine. It's been quite an adjustment but very much rewarding in all aspects! I love it when she starts doing her "baby talk" thing ... and her look really is magnetic huh? I hope this photo brightens up everyone who comes to visit this blog today!

Good Job! 1st Day at "School"

I felt really proud of Gareth today on his first day at "school" (actually it's nursery ...). We went scouting around the other day .. and managed to find three church related kindergartens. Each has their uniqueness. One was very small, the other that has lots of space and one more pretty sophisticated. This brings back loads of memories for me because Mom actually was the cook and helper at the church nursery/kindergarten that I was going to when I was around three.

We thought it might be nice for Gareth to make some friends ... at the end we chose the 1st one we visited. It's a small one next to the Anglican church nearby.

Gareth seemed excited this morning and a little apprehensive. It's a big step for our shy son. He walked into the little compound himself with his "school bag". The headmistress greeted us with a smile as well as the other teachers and also the kids.

Once Gareth got his new uniform on we went to the "singing session". he just stood there to get himself "orientated". As the father I just stuck around :-) nearby. I think it was more for me then him! (Apparently, May Chin expected me to go off .. but I misunderstood her instructions and stayed on throughout - which was ok! I had a chair nearby and did my work there.)

During the break, he really enjoyed the biscuits and the companionship around him - ok! especially the extra biscuits the teacher gave him. His joy was so contagious ...

As parents we don't expect a lot of academic stuff or pressure on Gareth now. As long as he enjoyes himself, learns someting, plays with others, socialize with kids around his age that would be great.

We felt good that we could support a church kindergarten as well ... we could see clearly that there wasn't any "profit-mindedness" lurking anywhere ... which we really appreciate.

We're just thankful .. again how things are working out. It's a trial run actually ... but if it works out (which is very likely) .. then Gareth is going to have a new routine. He did excellent today ... GOOD Job, Gareth!

Finishing Strong

It was great on Saturday when Gareth and I had another father-son bonding time. Thanks to World Vision Malaysia for organizing the Fun Night Walk to raise funds for poor communities in Marjeyoun, South Lebanon.

The "Taman Arboretum" is a great place for an event like this. And it's a first time for Gareth ... and it's been sooooo long since I've gone for a walk :-) There was mention during a speech of people whom are eye-ing to cut a chunk of the park and forest reserve for some expensive condos (which you and I know will benefit who!) This is so so sad ... So, apart from highlighting the needs for those far away in South Lebanon, I appreciated the awareness raised right where we stood. We need to voice out our disatisfaction with such "efforts" merely for the benefit of a few. And as always it's money related :-(

Anyway, with that out of the way ... both of us had a good time ... starting with good free Milo that brought me back to school day memories. Then we sat down as others did their "Jazzercise" warm ups which was quite amusing as well as helpful.

Then off for the walk ... which was much longer then I expected ... I mean REALLY much longer. the extra challenge was I carried Gareth rotating hands for 99% of the journey. I tried to get him to walk but I failed. Nevertheless with the company of two friends Yew Khuen and Jo-ann who walked with us it made my suffering less painful. It was great to have conversations as I sqeezed every ounce of energy I could for the next step *grin* As I drove back later, I thought about how even harder it would have been if I had to walk and carry Gareth alone ... ah. .. there another good illustration of the importance of friends during a hard journey...

Well, the following picture is Gareth's 1% of glory running towards the finishing line... there were some cheers ... more for him than the father who carried him most of the journey .. but that's ok. I was proud of him anyway.

The next photo ... is a miracle one time shot that just came out beautifully ... the joy of passing the finishing line. They say that starting well is half of the battle won, well ... I guess there's some truth in that, the middle of the journey needed as much perseverance as the passion for starting. But I think finishing strong and finishing well is what we all desire and work towards in everything we do. I was delighted by all the photos here .. I'm proud of Gareth (for enduring the mosquitos ... and running the final lap.), I'm quite happy with myself for surviving a pretty long journey and not complaining too much (*ha*), all in all I'm encouraged by the more than 200 participants who joined the walk, donated the funds, and simply had a good time ... I was hoping more from our church community could have joined (it's a pity many missed it - hopefully the next round), a handful still made it (I think we enjoyed the time there), and for Gareth and me ... the bonus benefits we got was a wondeful, fun, and a good exercise time (tiring especially for me) and of course, just a chance to bump into some friends helped make it more worthwhile ... I suppose lots of ingredients helps one to finish strong.

Gareth Cool ...

I just came back from a night out with Gareth to support a Worship CD launch by 1accordministry at my friend Pastor Timothy Loh's church EaglePoint Christian Fellowship. It's been quite a while since I've attended a concert like this. *grin* (in normal circumstances I'd probably stay home but with an invitation from a good friend like Tim, I couldn't stay away ...*hehe*)

Gareth was intrigued by this particular light before the powerpacked multimedia intro began and then the worship concert went on the way. The worship team led us through their "journey" of songs they composed themselves. Overall, it's a good effort by a local church based worship ministry. There's was a pretty good short kind of "promo" video they did to introduce their ministry. At the end of the event it was good to catch up with some old friends especially from the Youth Prayer Wave Network I was part of during my youth pastor days!
It was an interesting feeling tonight ... quite a number of random thoughts ... some reflections ... some little observations here and there ...

Anyway, I thought this particular photo would have been a "cool" album cover for Gareth's album :-) We had a good time out together Father and son. I appreciated a good closing "mini-message" by my friend Pastor Tim whom I felt painted a beautiful picture of God's Father heart love for people like us. That was a highlight for me .. after carrying Gareth the whole 2 hours

Before I sleep tonight, I rest assured Our God indeed is unique and one thing I do is appreciate the customized journey he's led me thus far ... plus the stuff he's opened my eyes to see "again" and "afresh". ...

Happy Full Moon ... Elysia!

We're so glad you came, Elysia ... the whole month of "orientation" has been quite an experience for Gareth (especially), Mummy and Papa ... :-)

Elysia's Day Out

This is a picture I took on Saturday and wow! she's already 11 days old.

Today, May Chin "moved out of the box" of common Chinese practice and decided to come for Sunday Worship with Elysia. (In most cases, even for Chinese Christians - mothers after giving birth would stay at home for at least a one month "confinement".)

Personally, I'd like to see these two months more like "nourishment" than "confinement" for May Chin. I think there's value in the rest and adjustment time. But we felt that a strictly "cannot get out of the house" rule is too "legalistic :-)

I was delighted to have Elysia join us for Palm Sunday worship today.

Handling two kids now is indeed a challenge - with Gareth turning three in October and the new born. We're learning day and night how all this can work out. Everyday there are new lessons to ponder and fresh discoveries.

On my personal end, I totally agree with those who've gone before me and gave me sincere words of advice or preparation. This is especially true on the amount of energy that's needed from a one child family to a two child family. I appreciate their wisdom, in fact it does help.

I'm also glad the last Sunday and next Sunday the timing is good for me as I managed to get two guest speakers for the Sunday Worship Gatherings. I'm looking forward for the Holy Week where I find myself able to just "freeze" my time for more personal contemplation. Now with this major adjustment, spirituality really takes on a fresh look with very human needs in front of me daily.

Well, it's already coming to 12 days .. and it's still a long way to go.

Blessings

I love this photo, it's going to be a personal favorite.

The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you; The Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace

Every Sunday, one of my favorite moments is the blessing or benediction as the Worship Gathering in a sense ends (to me it's more of transitions us back to our worlds). I find the traditional blessing from Numbers 6:24-26 to be increasingly meaningful and to me its never a ritualistic practice devoid of meaning. To be honest, I truly believe in the one who blesses us. And indeed We're full of gratitute how's our life journey thus far. There have been struggles and it's still there, we have our own share of failures, pains and disappointments. But somehow, the light always pierces the darkness in some way. And we're always surprised again and again how things will turn out.

I know there are other more "contextualized" blessings. One of my favorites is the Old Irish Blessing ... I learnt a song based on it in Germany last year. Of course, it carried much meaning as many of us who gathered at the summer school would find it rare to meet again on this side of heaven. But I think, it's also still relevant for our short "separations" from each other. I think of Seng Joo who will be leaving our BLC community and Malaysia for Australia in a weeks time. I think of Dr. Stan Grenz who's returned to the Lord. I think of every person I meet whether weekly for corporate worship or LiFe Groups, or I think of old friends as well as new ones. Godsons, godaughters, family .... Truly, God hold us in the palm of His hand. And before I sleep, we hear this Irish blessing.

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
and rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

A whole new world

well I'm sure it's a whole new world to Elysia after spending months in mummy's tummy. And yet, it's also a "whole new world" for Gareth to a new person in the home. Daily there's new lessons to learn. He's doing better most of the time. BUt it's still adjustments. I found it helpful to talk with him and listen to him. He's got more and more new vocabs as the days pass by. I totally enjoy watching Blues' clues with him this morning. It sparks lots of conversations and we learnt some american sign language together (I've always wanted to learn sign language somehow it moves me). so there is an element of a lot of mutual learning these days.

I wanna go home!

Well after two nights in the Special Care Nursery "under the lights" the doctor said the level is ok. So it's good to have you back home Elysia. Big Bro Gareth and Papa had two wonderful nights of bonding. You look a little different ... and I like your fuzzy hair :-)

Tonight we'll continue our "adjustment" to sleep ... It's always a pleasure to see her sleep ...

welcome home again!

"Separated" for a while ...

Elysia is admitted today for jaundice (nothing serious just that the level is a bit high) and mummy is with her now (for breastfeeding and hopefull some rest). Gareth is asleep after I took the above picture. Parenthood is quite a responsibility and we willingly embrace our children from the one who's entrusted them to us. It's amazing how as parents there's a surge of extra energy when we need it.

It was quite a smooth process to put Gareth to sleep tonight. He's pretty tired. We spent some time talking and singing. The contents of the conversation included how come baby sister Elysia and mummy is missing tonight. We sang John 3:16 in Mandarin together. I always find "the kit boys time together" always very special.

Both May Chin & I were hoping that Elysia didn't need to be admitted. But the doctor advised it's best to put her "under the light". It's pretty common nowadays ... and even though we know it's going to be ok and it's part of the process but it doesn't make it "easier".

I managed to do a "talk" today at a music school with a bunch of teachers and staff there. It was interesting and slightly interactive. But, I would have prefered to have my mind fully focused on family matters. I felt I "should have" given myself more "space" in my schedule than agreeing to the talk after Elysia was born (initially I actually declined citing May Chin was due anytime).

Overall, it still turned out well (I was very open to take the talk because it gave me a chance to connect with those who are not Christians or unchurched plus it was kind of a favour for an old friend) ... God is gracious in spite of our fumblings and stumblings. All of us somehow managed ... whether it's Gareth, May Chin or me. We just look forward to have Elysia back home soon. Take care young one ... "The Lord be with you ..."

The Great Gift of Parenthood

"Children are their parents' guests. They come into the space that has been created for them, stay for a while - fifteen, twenty, or twenty-five years - and leave again to create their own space. Although parents speak about "our son" and "our daughter," their children are not their property. In many ways children are strangers. Parents have to come to know them, discover their strengths and their weaknesses, and guide them to maturity, allowing them to make their own decisions.

The greatest gift parents can give their children is their love for each other. Through that love they create an anxiety-free place for their children to grow, encouraging them to develop confidence in themselves and find the freedom to choose their own ways in life."

I guess this picture kind of connects ... with what Nouwen says above ...

I'm home ...

Her chinese name Kye has the picture of Chinese caligraphy in mind and generally gives the idea of "upright" - Xin simply means "heart".

the meanings surrounding the name "Elysia" = sweetly blissful - completely happy and contented - latin origin - blessed home ...

as far as popularity is concerned :-) According to Think! Baby Names --> The name Elysia was not ranked among 4275 first names for females of all ages in the 1990 U.S. Census. The name Elysia was not ranked among 88799 surnames for males and females of all ages in the 1990 U.S. Census. We've never been too worried about the value of being popular *grin* . When was Gareth or Sivin a popular name? hehhehehe ...

Terima Kasih

many thanks to all who managed to pop by the hospital and say hello.

many thanks to all who SMSed us and/or gave us a phone call.

many thanks to all who posted comments on the previous Elysia Kit blog post and also some who actually posted congrats in their own blogs. Great to have old as well as new friends drop a note ...

A Big "Terima Kasih" from all of us - thank you in Malay or more accurately translated literally - "receive our love".

Of course, Gareth now is big bro ... and he's doing pretty well in his "learning curve" to welcome Elysia. That's just the beginning ... :-) a beginning of how we can learn as a family of four to grow in our humanity, ongoing spiritual formation and fulfilling our calling as individuals as well as a family. So, Gareth is not alone in his learning. None of us are.

Elysia Kit Kye Xin

Well, when we said ready? Both of the girls were ready. Get set ... Mummy was all packed up and kind of started feeling the contractions more this morning. We had a great time at the park this morning as a family - all four of us. A good lunch ... in the afternoon. And then off we go to the hospital ...

May Chin has my vote for amazing mum ... ok I'm biased. :-)

And it was just fabulous to see how our daughter became so still and silent once she was at mummy's side hearing her heartbeat, listening to the soothing voice, and welcomed into this world with a sense of security that one is loved.

Indeed you are ... loved. Welcome, Elysia Kit Kye Xin. We love you.

Many thanks to all who showed their love and support through prayer and "cheers" in all sorts of ways. And we give thanks ultimately to the Father, Son and Spirt - who creates, redeems and shapes us.

We all can love because God has first loved us.

Ready? Set ... Go!

My lovely wife May Chin seems pretty cool about it (it's all over her face!) ... my fun loving son Gareth is trying to "comprehend" what's about to happen (as you can see!). We appreciate your prayers and we're looking forward to welcome a new member to the family.

Looks like anything else is going to be put on hold for now.

The Matrix Family

We had some fun as we passed by China town on the way home today!

Precious Moments

It's been quite a while since we managed to take a family picture. Tonight, thanks to my brother John ... we managed to capture one before baby no. 2 arrives.

I was just playing around with my camera and was delighted to capture a fun moment we had around the Mah-Jong table (we didn't know how to play but we had fun spinning dices)

The art of taking your own picture is quite an acquired skill. I have pretty long hands to capture a moment like this. :-)

Ah ... my amazing wife May Chin exactly one month before the due date.

Reunion Dinner

The dishes were simple but Mom is a fantastic cook it's quality and simplicity at its best! I'm still full!

Of course, the dinner is more of family coming back together (at least once a year if possible). Kuala Lumpur is our "hometown" so we don't need to drive out to another state. But, it's still good to be together during this chinese new year eve (even though we meet up quite often). We've been through a lot together.

It's nice to see Gareth enjoying the company with my Dad and my brother's hairstyle really is into the year of the rooster! :-) Dad is an art director, John is an entertainer (e.g. clowning, ventriloquism & street magic), I'm a pastor (who's some kind of artist I think *grin*). Let's see how Gareth will turn out (no pressure!0

Now with more vocabulary Gareth is doing well to communicate with my mom. I think she must have enjoyed it when we sang John 3:16 in Mandarin together. It was a song she sang to me when I was a kid.

Hi Bob ... I'm Gareth!

Finally they meet face to face :-) It was quite an exciting experience for Gareth (2 year and 4 months old) bump into Bob the Builder at KLCC last Monday.

Actually, I think I was the one who got REALLY excited first! It's been really enjoyable these past few months especially as May Chin and I strike fun "conversations" with Gareth. Topics revolve around "colours", "shapes", "trains", "birds", "What's papa or mummy's name? what's his name?", "counting from 1-20" (we try ...), "ants" (which he has some personal hostility against - May Chin has that for lizards and cockroaches!) .. and much more.

We sing "Jesus, name above all names" with him in the car. Other personal favorites are "Give me Oil in my lamp", "Hallelu, Hallelujah!", a few days ago we tried "Your love is amazing!". Oh yeah .. not forgetting the African song "Neh Noh lita si Mama!"

Of course, there's the routine "The Lord's Prayer" before he sleeps. And the big "Amen" at the end truly completes the day. We're so grateful as we recollect all these special moments. There are times of discipline as well, it's the whole package. And now, we await baby No. 2. Kind of finalized the Chinese name, now the English one ... hmmm ....

Grand Parents

I was really happy that mom could make it for Gareth's Birthday Dim-sum lunch yesterday. And I was even happier to see him just "hanging out" with mom freely (there were times he was shy because he seldom sees my mom). But nowadays, he's actually quite affectionate to her. I find it a great joy as well to see mom full of smiles and happiness as she relates to her first grand child.

Grandparents are such an important part of Gareth's life thus far and I'm thankful that May Chin's parents (photo below) play an important part as well taking care of him during the day so both of us are able to do our work with less worries. Of course, we thought about it before whether May Chin would like to be a homemaker, but the reality of our situation just somehow makes that option not possible. We don't loath in guilt because of this decision (to some the ideal is for one to be at home - who's that supposed to be huh? *grin*), we focus on putting all our energies possible to make where we (and we we can do) work and see what's possible ahead. With such grace, then we move on!

"I am TWO!"

Happy Birthday ... Gareth Kit Kye Ker!

A-boy with Yeh Yeh

This is a rare shot by John Kit (my younger brother) of my Dad and his grandson Gareth during Dad's birthday on the 9th of September.

We also managed to have time for dinner together last night (which was mooncake festival!) These are precious moments we treasure.

Biscuits ... Pringles .. Tapioca...Cheese

Well, that was the first item he headed for, and then I tried to introduce "persuasively" to internalize the Pringles Experience (which has been ongoing ... mind you *hehehehe*)

May Chin "counter proposed" with Tapioca chips ... but his eyes seemed to be glued on Cheese. At the end, mama won with "Tapioca" but not for Gareth but for herself :-) she loves them. I've been banned from Pringles to get fitter :-) and Gareth doesn't mind ... he just likes to "gai gai" (some funny word we use with kids that means "we're going out!")

Healing & Cleansing

Had a wonderful time with May Chin & Gareth at Bangsar Shopping Centre a while ago. May Chin bought me my long awaited new swimming shorts and Gareth just enjoyed himself pushing the empty shopping trailer. But it's really the buying and spending that matters. It's the simple "being with" that makes a difference. Amazing how GOD can use marriage and family towards his work of healing and cleansing ... so body, soul and mind battered by the whole week's pressures, pain and unpleasantness can be renewed once again ...

Faces & Phases 2004

Happy New Year to all!

Here's a picture taken in December 2003 that became a Christmas present to us. We're excited to see what God has install for us and the phases he wishes to lead us through. We're also looking forward to get to know "New" & "Old" faces better & somehow see how all the phases we go through fit into GOD's beautiful story!

Best & Worst (The Kit Family)

Well before I beam off from BlogWorld again (until 2004) .... I should have a look at the little civilization God has entrusted to us as a young family. Again in no particular order of importance ... because all are important!

BEST
1. PD HOliday
The last 3 days 2 nights were I think the best one we have so far. We just felt so so blessed and well rested... Good food, great swimming, lots of beauty sleep, time to talk, laugh and enjoy the environment. A wonderful pre-climax (still got one more day for 2003) for all the joy we're experienced as a family!

2. Gareth's Growth
He's growing into quite a unique character with his "mini-temper", "stunning intelligence", "fun-loving checkiness", and I believe a "tender heart" for God to work.... plus he's good-looking like mummy (& papa). We're so thankful.

3. Our Growth as a couple
Since starting BLC, we're been thrown into all sorts of uexpected situations (some pleasant & others painful - what's new huh?). At times it's our own journey, at other times it's the "openness" that other people allow us to journey with them. On both counts, these have been molding and maturing processes ... which leaves a deep impression on us!

4. Family & Friends
May Chin's parents have really "blessed" us tremendously by the loving care of Gareth daily. It has been good as well for us to consciously spend time with my Mom as well (caught Daddy & John when both are not out-station) ...

Both old and new friends have really come alongside us ... they make the word "friend" really mean a lot to us! It's also fabulous to have a chance to share in all their joys as well ... whether it's the birth of a new baby, engagement, marriage, a new phase in life, etc. It's simply great!

The Silver Box with a Golden Ribbon was a wonderful gift to us with "love" captured in words and cards for us ... it shows BLC is not a "job" for us but truly family & friends!

5. Needs Taken Care of!
Not too sure about "wants" but our "needs" have definately been well taken care of ... and we experience even his abundance financially, socially, spiritually and personally.

WORST
1. "Blockbusters" with my Wife!
Nothing physical .... :-) we're just learning how to love each other more like the way Christ loves us ... so a lot of "speaking the truth" in love ... Speaking the truth can be uncomfortable even though it's for our growth!

2. Juggling Work Pressures
Our "jobs" each have a different expectations ... May Chin is alone handling a department right now (which is very tough). I'm the only pastor of BLC (though with two part-time helpers which I'm learning how we can work as a team better.) then there's other stuff on our "working plate". Again, a lot of work to to learn a healthy rhythm of authentic spirituality, excellence in our vocation-work and a maturing humanity as an individual!

3. Witnessing Painful-Suffering Experiences of others
On one hand it's an honor to be invited into people's pains, on the other hand it's sad to see our loved ones or close friends awalk a very difficult dark valley in their lives. At times, we feel so helpless & wonder what we can do to help. In times like this, we're drawn again and again to GOD.

4. I'm glad I can just end at No. 3 ... and I will just end at No. 3. Just to remind me that The GOOD God has for us always outweights the BAD we go through ...

Christmas Shalom 2003

I'll be signing off from BlogsSphere for a couple of days ... so before I get "beamed out" from the internet ....

May Chin, Gareth & I wish all friends (including all who visit this garden), relatives and family (including the global family of humans!) --> a Shalom-filled-"Peace-full"-God-Blessed-kind of Christmas.
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"And this is what will prove it to you:
you will find a baby wrapped in strips of cloth and lying in a manger."
(Luke 2:12)

Jesus the Son of Man
by Yu Jiade, China
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Uncle John Kit & Friend

Yes, i recognize that my brother looks so much cooler than me. That's cool!

Grandparents Kit

Here's the latest photo with my parents ... 1st time Grandparents

Godparents

Here's Gareth during his baptism with his Malaysian Godparents Daniel & Michelle Tan (He's got a cool International Godmother in Geneva!). He looks so small, cubby and cute!

A Family Photo

most of the time you'll see just Gareth & May Chin or Gareth and me ... a kind man saw us taking photos of each other and offered to take this shot during our last family holiday together in Genting Highlands (nope we didn't go inside the casino - babies not aloud! haha! It's near and we like a cooler climate!)