The phrase "it’s better to light a candle than curse the darkness" is a very slight alteration on the less common Chinese proverb "’Don’t curse the darkness – light a candle." The advice given is "if something is wrong, do something about it rather than complain. – Everything2
You can start now by lighting a candle and say a prayer here!
This "better" way keeps me away from the "bitter" way. 🙂